daughter is daughter always but the son is a son till he gets married

THIS IS TODAY A NORMAL PSYCHOLOGY OF EVERY HUMAN IN THIS WORLD , BUT IS 

THIS FINE , IF YES THEN WHY ? 

IT IS BECAUSE YET WE DO NOT TAKE OUR DAUGHTER IN LAW AS A PART OF OUR 

FAMILY . SHE IS YET TREATED TO BE AN OUT SIDER , IS THIS FINE , BECAUSE YET IN  

GENERAL IF WE SEE THAT IN EVERY HOUSE A DAUGHTER IN LAW IS BASICALLY 

TREATED JUST FOR GRANTED , SHE IS A NORMAL WORKER OF THE FAMILY. BUT SHE

IS NOT SUPPOSED TO DO ANY THING ON HER OWN , EVEN SHE HAS NO RIGHT TO

DISCUSS IN THE FAMILY ON ANY POINT , SHE IS SUPPOSED TO JUST KEEP SILENT 

AND OBEY ORDERS GIVEN TO HER. ISN'T THIS RIDICULOUS , WHEN THIS WILL 

CHANGE , AS DO WE BRING A SERVANT BY OUR SON'S WEDDING , DO SHE HAS NO 

DIGNITY IN OUR HOUSE, AS FOR US ONLY SHE LEAVES THE HOUSE OF HER PARENT

TO LIVE LIKE THIS A HORRIBLE LIFE. NO.IS SHE AN ATM MACHINE NO.

SHE IS PRIDE OF OUR HOUSE , SHE REPRESENTS OUR CULTURE IN THE SOCIETY, AS 

HOW WE KEEP HER IS OUR CULTURE AND WE NEED TO MAINTAIN THE CULTURE

ARE WE STUBBORN OR WE WANT TO PRETEND TO BE STUBBORN. WE NEED TO KEEP 

HER LIKE OUR DAUGHTER OR MUCH BETTER THEN HER , AS SHE IS HERE WITH US 

FOR HER LIFE, THEN WE NEED TO LOVE HER TAKE HER PROPER CARE. SO THAT SHE

FEELS SAFE AND LOVED , THEN WHY WILL SHE WANT TO GO TO HER PARENTS IF

SHE GETS PROPER CARE AND LOVE AND RESPECT. THAT IS ALL WHAT SHE NEEDS.

ON THE OTHER HAND WE TAKE OUR DAUGHTER AS A PRINCESS, SHE IS OUR

PRINCESS AND ALWAYS BE , BUT ON THE SAME TIME WE NEED TO GUIDE HER HOW

TO MANAGE WITH THE OTHER FAMILY IN WHICH SHE WILL LIVE HER LIFE WITH HER

HUSBAND AND IN LAWS , WE NEED TO TEACH HER THE LIFE STYLE OF A BAHU TOO.

SO THAT IT IS EASY FOR HER TO ADJUST IN NEW LIFE. WE CAN SAY THAT EVERY

FAMILY IS NOT BAAD , BUT WE CAN NOT SAY THAT EVERY FAMILY OR THE BOY IS 

GOOD. THE LIFE STYLE DESK IS CHANGED TODAY. SO THEN WE CAN NOT SAY THAT 

IF THE FAMILY IS GOOD THEN THE BOY OR THE GIRL WILL BE GOOD . OR IF THE GIRL

OR THE BOY IS GOOD THEN THE FAMILY WILL BE GOOD.

YES WE HAVE TO BE VERY ELERT.

NOW ONE IMPORTANT THING, WE HAVE TO CHANGE OUR NATURE AND 

PSCYCHOLOGY THAT WE KNOW OUR KID THEY WILL NOT GO AGAINST US.

WE NEED TO CHANGE THIS , BECAUSE OF THIS , WE LOOSE OUR KIDS AND GO FOR 

HONOR KILLING. WHY CAN NOT WE TEACH OUR KIDS THAT WHAT IS GOOD AND 

BAAD FOR THEM AS THEY ARE EDUCATED THEY ARE LITERATE AND THEY ONLY

HAVE TO LEAD THERE LIFE NOT WE.

LAST BUT NOT LEAST WE WANT TO SAY THIS , THAT, THE TIME HAS COME

TO CHANGE OUR SELF AND START TREATING THE BAHU AS BETI  SO THAT OUT 

DAUGHTER AND DAUGHTER IN LAW BOTH ARE HAPPY .

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